Life is full of challenges, and we often find ourselves needing a safe place to reflectinwardly, to heal from any of a wide range of issues. These issues can include:
- Communication difficulties at work or at home
- Chemical dependency
- Other stresses
Individual therapy is a place to discover the conditions one needs to find safety, toconfide in someone who doesn’t judge, but listens and strives to understand, and to findtools for growth and healing. These tools include:
- Deep reflective listening
- Cognitive behavioral strategies
- Gestalt, EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing)
- Inner child work and more
My approach in all of my work is based on the Humanistic Existential Approach thatrespects each person’s internal subjective experience, seeing it as always valid andworthy of caring and attention. I draw on the work of Carl Rogers and other existentialistwho emphasized subjectivity and inter-subjective dialog.
Often the stresses of life impact out ability to be intimate, to communicate openly andfully with those we love most, or to allow the fulfillment that relationships can bring. The intensity and power of a loving relationship can bring
- Fear of commitment
- Confusion about intimate boundaries
- Difficulty communicating
- Shame and secrecy
Couples therapy can provide tools to find safety together and to improvecommunication. The subjective intersubjective approach is especially powerful andeffective with issues that arise with intimate couples relationships. When each memberof a couple can be seen as a unique individual who is fully empowered to be his or her own authentic self, allowing and valuing the differences as well as the sharedexperiences that enrich the connection between both partners, clarity of boundaries,open communication and mutual acceptance flow more easily. These empower thepartners to thrive together.
MALE RAPE AND SEXUAL ABUSE
The trauma of rape and sexual assault knows no gender limitations. It can strike anyone, male or female. When men and boys are sexually assaulted, there is often anintense shame based on false beliefs about masculinity, power and vulnerability. Both can result in a deep and painful isolation that robs life of its joy and freshness, leaving behind fear, shame, depression, rage, overwhelming grief and pain, sexual confusion and addictive/dysfunctional behaviors.
Sexual abuse and rape both happen to men and boys, and the results of both can besuccessfully treated. As a survivor of sexual assault, I know something about the painof it and the path to recovery. I have been treating Male Survivors since 1984, focusingon acceptance, information, cognitive behavioral treatment when needed forbehavioral and addictive issues, and EMDR , inner child and other trauma recovery strategies.
Sexual assault is never the fault of the victim. Any guilt and shame the victim mayfeel is simply part of its destructive impact, which can be healed. If you are seekinghelp for issues related to sexual abuse or rape, I believe I can be a powerful resourcefor your healing and recovery.